One of the greatest heartaches I see in modern relationships is when one person - sometimes even both - do not know their worth. They don't know what they're worth because they are not confident in who they are, what they look like, or what they bring to the table. Let me try to tackle these one at a time:
Who you are: a living, breathing, and moving miracle; a complex and perfectly unique soul full of passions, giftings, beliefs, and dreams; a body made of muscle and skin that holds all of you together and enables to to run and jump and paint and swim and adventure; a heart longing for love and acceptance, and a heart made able to give love and acceptance.
What you look like: a beautiful, miraculous mixing of the people who made you; uniquely molded and mastered to be an incomparable work of art; and perfect in all of your self-designated imperfections.
What you bring to the table: your gifts and talents; your passions and beliefs; your quirks and beauty; the way you laugh, the way you love, and the way you see the world.
Those things about you, my friend, are amazing. But if you don’t recognize them as such, it’s hard to believe you are worthy. And a natural byproduct of someone not fully knowing their innate worth? Allowing insecurity to force them into settling for less than what they deserve. And that breaks my heart.
You, yes you! You deserve the moon and the stars. You deserve to be loved and respected for exactly who you are, with all of your quirks and freckles and bad jokes. You deserve to be respectfully pursued by someone who sees and loves all that you are (and are not), and who encourages you to grow more into who you were destined to be. You are worth the best.
I urge you, please do not settle for anything less than the best, in life, in love, in anything and everything. You will attract what you believe you deserve, so believe your worth! Write it on your mirror. Put a post-it note in your car. Do whatever you need to do to remind yourself daily that you are beautiful, talented, funny, and all of the other amazing things that you are. I promise, once you truly know your worth - and live confidently in that knowledge - settling will not even be an option.
You are worth it. You deserve it. Now I hope you will believe it.
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Meet the Writer: Gennean
Gennean is self-proclaimed "hot mess" who loves a good cup of coffee & a good adventure. Born & raised in California, it was shortly after moving to Nashville that she became friends with Unveiled founder Ainsley Britain. Gennean has been blogging for over five years on life & faith, and is honored to be a contributing writer on the Unveiled blog.